I used to think that how I felt about money was based on my circumstances- but once I took time to go deeper and analyze my financial cycles, I realized something was out of place.
Even though I’ve had a lot of different experiences with money at different times (from struggling to pay rent to earning a 6 figure salary, and so on) I’ve pretty much always had the same emotions around my finances.
My emotions regarding money were not tied to my own life experiences as much as they were tied to beliefs I learned when I was a child.
For most of my life, my emotions around finances have been heavy… fear, guilt, and lack being the primary associations.
Instead of learning how to make money, my primary concern was how to need less money overall.
This thinking coupled with the heavy emotions created a self fulfilling prophecy: if I don’t have money I feel like I need it, and if I do have money I always feel like I need more. It’s never enough, and if it is- I can’t freely spend it, because then it will be gone. But the reality is, in my adult life I have generally had little trouble making money!
Sure, sometimes I overworked or had to learn hard lessons… but at the end of the day, I have been successful, advanced my income, and I’ve managed my bills effectively. So where on earth did these crazy emotions come from?!
Well… 🕵🏼♀️ 🧐 🕵🏼♀️
🔎 Culture told me through media that “average” or “normal” people always have money problems
🔎 My family of origin is really big (I have 7 siblings!) and my parents had a single income, so they always had to be frugal and money was often tight
🔎 I was taught to look at my future primarily as a wife and mother, suggested careers were considered as something to support “just in case” — but I was never directed to think about earning much
So all of these became my emotional inheritance before I could even earn or truly conceptualize what money is. 😳
Everything shifted when I learned to recognize my cycles and committed to breaking them in order to truly live in my own truth. 🥰
If you want to change your money story… DM me “JOY” to learn more. 😉